Homeward Bound!

[pisces9]

ITH- thank you! it is going to be hard work but not as hard as before...more solutions from now on with everything.

yep- i getcha Neil...in fact this morning i brought it up briefly- i said you just let me know when and ill book an appt..i think it would be good to try it once if you want and see how we like it. he said ok..that he would let me know

also- he has ben pretty snappy but at the same time loving. his snappiness is all about him i can tell. he is testy and uneasy. I used to get very defensive and take it so personally and snap back or get sad or cry. now i just let it roll- ask myself is this about him or me and it is about him. it is truly a transformation for me.

we spent yesterday evening looking at a new neighborhood to live in that he liked- i really like it too. so that was fun...

i think he is overwhelmed with all this. thats fine. he can take whatever time he needs- in fact today he packed up his clothes and laundry ( most of it which wasnt a lot) and said he needs to defuzz..thats his words for space and regroup. i said ok...nicely but quietly. he said its nothing bad- i said i didnt think that and i understand. he said i still have my motorcycle here so ill be here after work- i said ok- im here if you want to cuddle.

so i left it all good- he is just struggling. it was hard for me at times to not snap back or say- what is your deal or something like that. but i didnt bc i now that isnt healthy for me. i have done too much work to be sucked back into the negative realm of life. ill stay positive.

i just used to take on so much of his moods. now im really working on not doing that.