It seems that this is getting to be pursuer/pursuee game and it needs to stop. I keep letting him draw me in then things continue on the same and he doesn't work on his issues.
JAK
Jak, It sounds like you've identified an important pattern in your M that is keeping things the same. What is keeping you in this pattern? What are the triggers? What specifically do you think, feel, and do to contribute to maintaining this relational pattern?
Maybe if this can be articulated, then you will have some ideas on what you need to change. Of course, it will be a difficult change for you. There is perceived safety in maintaining the current pattern.
From the poem Habit by Jane Hirshfield:
But habit is different: it chooses. And we, its good horse, opening our mouths at even the sight of the bit.
CL
Last edited by Concerned_Listener; 08/29/0804:16 PM.
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
