DB coaching session 1- done!

[LolaL]

You know Jen, I like Amy's suggestion of making this a regular Thursday night thing. Maybe you could arrange with H to take D on Thursdays? That way you don't feel obligated to be home at a certain hour, and he can't biotch if you are late.

[AnewAmy]

Good solution Lola.

[JenInVen]

Hi Coach and Dan!

Thanks for coming around. I feel so much better now.

The only games i will play are by Milton Bradley and Hasbro not JF:)

[JenInVen]

I'll try the Thursday night thing. I'll need to see though because he has calsses that night. I'm sure we can work something out though Just like I thought we had worked last night out too

[LolaL]

Pick a night for yourself, a regular night that you can go out then. And on the Thursdays when you want to do the Hash, then have him take her overnight.

[JenInVen]

I was thinking of sticking with the Thursday. His dad can watch D until he finishes class.

[AnewAmy]

Problem solved. Now implement it.

This is like Floyd and the phone call. We'll be on you like white on rice to make sure you do this.

[pisces9]

i Jen- just catching up.
what i meant was you told on yourself to your coach by saying what your bad patterns were...thats good!

also- i agree.. no more chasing him online even as a joke. i think it was ok to try but you see it didnt really get you results you wanted.

i think he is in love with you deeply- but there has to be a lot of change and he has to face hi won demons. the only thing here is real change, patience and unconditional love - love him like you would a casual friend.

go back to your notes with your coach and read what you wrote...will that help?

[JenInVen]

Hi Amy....I wouldn't dream of messing with you guys! Ms Ladybug scared me on Floyds thread lol!

Pisces thanks for clarifying! I have been thinking and reading about my session on Wednesday. Vernetta's voice is still in my head Why do we let the ones we love go? I guess the saying "If you love something set it free. If it comes back it's yours but if it doesn't it never was" sums it all up.

I'm beginning to think that he was upset not because I was late but because he was worried about me...he didn't know where I was or who I was with. he can't tell me that though because it would show too much. In fact I was 2 blocks away in my neighbourhood.

I'm pulling back big time and I'm not going to show his behaviour bothers me. Water off the ducks back.

[JenInVen]

I had a Ziggy poster in my dorm room that said "Love is the only thing you get more of by giving it away".