Does your S is or wants to work things out and get back together? If the S wants to? Do you want to? What is holding things up? How much time are you willing to wait?
"Have I had a great epiphany about whether I should continue being a WAS or return home? Not yet - but I'm hoping that comes soon." Can you elaborate?
Hi, Very Scared 54. Hope things are going well for you. I'm sorry I didn't reply to this sooner but I've been offline for a while now. To answer your question, H has said that he will not be the one to end this marriage - that ball is in my court. However, he is not prepared to fight for it either, so I guess there is no real initiative for me to do either one. He tells me that he won't wait forever, but then he says he won't end the marriage so I really don't know where he is on everything. At this point, there is a lot of mistrust, hurt, confusion and anger on both our parts that we're trying to work through. I don't want to wait forever for obvious reasons - the longer we're apart, the easier it gets and I don't want that; I don't want to put my life on hold forever. Right now, it's really the trust issue and the uncertainty that we can actually fix things that holds us back.
As for the epiphany thing, I guess I always just sort of hoped I would wake up one morning and think, "I want to go home." Or, in the alternative, have something happen to me that made me realize that I'm happy on my own and it's time to move on. I know that in reality these life-defining moments happen only rarely, so I'm not really relying on that great eye-opening experience anymore. I just want to be sure that I do what's best for me...
Me (WAW) 30 H (LBS) 31 T since 6/10/1994 M 8/8/98 No kids S 3/10/08 D filed 6/9/08; put on hold 7/14/08 D finalized 10/13/08
