Show him that YOUR in charge of your stuff. Doing it YOUR way. Don't say anything about asking the L this or asking the C that. YOUR in charge and they work for you. Be a little snippy if you want to.
H4H, thanks so much for that!!! I teared up a little when I read that it was so sweet (and I'm a littly mushy you know).
H came and left. Whew! He said good on that I didn't get the rental car insurance (I left him a voice mail to let me know if he wanted it and I would add it but didn't get it b/c it was 16.00 a day! and it turns out my car is not going to be ready until the 18th they say! And my car insurance covers the rental car also. He ragged on me a bit for where I parked but not too badly, b/c we have trees all over the yard so that was kind of stupid. And I said I was trying to avoid flooding (we had 27 inches and our yard floods a little sometimes with regular storms) so that's why I parked where I did. Then I think he was about to actually say I did a good job maybe, but interrupted himself to ask me if I had found out if I need to pay the $500 deductible to the insurance co. or the repair shop. I said I would call and find out, and he says in a snotty tone "that's the kind of thing you need to find out." Poor H having to be married to a total dummy like me, huh! Btw, I did have a little snippy in my tone today as you suggested, just a little, usually I use a friendly or neutral voice. Is that a good 180 or bad 180 though?
Then he had told me before he left he was going to take the kids tonight for sleepover (and probably date with OW), and then he tells me today he's decided to take them until Sunday sometime. He was starting to say he had told me of that, but then I think he remembered I had it in email (that he didn't) so he just said he had decided he would keep them extra b/c he was gone for so long. I said nothing.
Then I went upstairs to work out and didn't see him again. Well, I think he was nicer than I thought he would be (I've been literally feeling sick about seeing him today and his criticisms) so should be happy about that, but a little sad about missing the kids. But I have my goal list today and am going to work on that. I've got 10 goals now including I added finding a part-time job of course, and I am just thinking now I will add in do something fun for me each day as an 11th. I started working on them yesterday and it takes all day and more with all the goals I have, hopefully I can get some finished so it will be easier but most of them are life-long goals though!
I should have had the bat, but didn't but we were standing near the broom closet with the brooms and mop so I guess I could have grabbed one of those if H gave me too much trouble!!! Karen
Karen