When I first came to the bb it took a little while before I had regular posters visiting my thread. But I tried to learn more about DBing and to visit their threads and offer some suggestions when I could get past my own pain. The more I visited others, the more they visited me.
I pop back here from time to time but I've noticed that many in the early stages don't want too much info from me since I was unable to save my marriage. Ultimately, marriage saving is everyone's goal but if it can't be done - Divorce Busting is also very much about saving yourself. About making a better life for yourself no matter what. This is not to say you shouldn't try - absolutely not. Do whatever you have to do if you want to have a shot at it. I did and I have no regrets about it. And only you can say how much you will do and for how long.
So, you both should support each other and watch - friends here are like a snowball. You start small and it grows. Others will come.
And as Jill and I have said - any time you need someone - pop over to my thread on Surviving. We've all been through this and will come to help you. We also play around a bit and if you need some lightness - that's the place.
