what i have learned is that you cannot over analyze it and you have to have zero expectations.
he has not been in this very long and yes, they have moments where they peak and then go back into their cave. there is no definite timeline but i think it is too soon to say he has changed totally.
i personally think it takes a few years before you see real progress, sometimes longer, and when they want to come home is up to them, not when we think they should come home, if at all.
and then some really wake up when there is a major change in their lives but even then, it does not startle them. for some, i think it takes several major events to happen to get their attention.
i think if there is ow in the picture it takes longer then if there wasn't.
you seem to have very high expectations about your h. let him be and stop thinking all the time that he has changed, etc.
you need to have ZERO expecatations and stop wondering why he has not filed for D.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
