Thank you. I did take some advil pm again last night and it helped, I did actually get some sleep last night. H is a little better. His one eye is not bad the other eye he can't see out of. BUT he had to work today, one of his workers is getting a tooth pulled and instead of him making the appt. for Friday he made it for today, leaving Raymond in the lurch to do the job himself. He's really po-oed. So am I. This is typical for these laborers to do something stupid as that.
So now i'll be worrying all day about him. That's why being self employed really does S**k!!
I have loads to do today, S5 has orientation tomorrow for kindergarten. School starts next wed. for us. I want the house sparkling before H comes home and stress free for him.
Again, I want to thank you all for the support you've given me especially in this last wk. You are true gems** and I appreciate all of you....hope4us,Jak,nocodes,lwb,dr.love,sara,yoyo,saffie,rob,sugar,goingforward,sues.. (hope I didn't forget anyone)
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Has he been back to the eye doctor for an evaluation? Why can't he see out of the eye? What does he see? Is it blurry? Is it white? sounds to me like he needs to be seen again if he hasn't already.
Blurry is Ok. The cortizone drops will help that. I don't like him being out working with the eye problem. When my eye was healing sometimes when I was up and about my eye would start hurting. My H would tell me to go lie down. I would say, "lying down doesn't do anything." But I would go lie down, and it did feel better. So I was wrong. He should wash his hands and use paper towels for his hands and face, it is more sanitary than a towel.
Just talked with H... don't know how much more I can take.
The other job he was suppposed to do is now not ready until next thursday, then he has to be out in Ohio by the 11th. So now he's not coming home until the 12th :(.
I have major juggling to do with other jobs he had scheduled for next wk that he can't do now and I have 3 or 4 bids due next wk.
His eye is swollen, due to him working no doubt. He went and filled the pain meds and is sleeping now. I feel so so bad for him. He is going to miss S5 first day of kindergarten and S2 first day of pre-school. He is so depressed and so am I. But Im worried about him, he's the one that's in pain and away from his family and missing out on stuff.
On top of it, I call my mother for some support and she's telling me how I have to keep it together ... DUH WTH have I been doing????? I have my H who is miles away from us and is hurt, I have the business to run and figure out how im going to pay for him to survive out there for another two wks which I didn't account for money wise, I have to precious children at home to take care and the house to run.. so Exactly why is it NOT alright for me to cry once in awhile?????? 99% of the time Im the strong one, but you know what im aloud weak moments damn it!!
Why is it that the closest people around us say the most insensative things????
Sorry to just ramble on.. I have so much on my mind its not even funny.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Know what you mean. My mother told me today that she has taken care of S19 for the last 5 summers, and she has gotten him to be a fine young man, and now that he is back in my house she doesn't want him to become a failure. Like I've had nothing to do with raising my son for the past 19 years, and I'm a bad influence on him! You know what they say, "If it's not one thing, it's your mother!"
Please tell me that he is not going to work tomorrow. The eye problem is not just a pain issue. Right now the sight is compromised. I have avoided mentioning the exact words my doctor told me when I showed up in her office with an infected eye. She said, "If this doesn't work, you will lose the eye." I understood what she was saying. If the treatment did not work, I would not only lose my sight through the eye but I would need to have the eye removed. You can bet I did everything they told me to do to get well. And then they called me their miracle patient.
He still sees fine with just one eye working. He can see to do everything he needs in life. But if he gets down to only seeing through one eye, think how vulnerable he will be should there be another accident. He has got to have a doctor check that eye for possible infection, and then do his drops religiously, keep his hands and face completely clean, and rest. Rest and cleanliness are important.
I hope I am not lecturing you like your mother. I feel terrible for the situation that you are in. But when push comes to shove, you have to drop all the small stuff. He'll see the kids go to school another day. And if he can't get to some jobs until he is well, then those people will need to be put off for a while. When things get tough you need to scale down and take the pressure off. Neither of you is a machine. And even if you were, we are often told the computer is down, or some other reason things have to wait. The important thing right now is for him to get well.
sara, Your right with everything you said. I can honestly say I don't know if he's working tomorrow or not. I do know that he has another appt. with the dr. in the morning, so that will tell the tale. the job that he is doing is for Dept. of Transportation, they have the bridge shut down for the work, so its not like he's doing a small little project , this is a big deal and there are deadlines he can't avoid. He is planning on having one of the other workers spray tomorrow, so he may have to be there but not actually do the work. Im hoping that this is the case.
You don't have to tell me how dangerous this is, I know it. I can only tell him so much and me not being there doesn't help. I told him his eye sight is the most important thing, and that he needs to take care of himself first. I hope he listens.
No you are not sounding like my mother, no worries sara I know your just concerned and I appreciate it alot.
It times like these when the small stuff just Doesn't matter your right, I just want him to get better and come home to us.
Im just so worried about him.
Thank you no codes, I will try.
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me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
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(((Tal))) You sound like you could use a hug ((((hug)))). You are doing good.
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... DUH WTH have I been doing????? 
I have my H who is miles away from us and is hurt, I have the business to run and figure out how im going to pay for him to survive out there for another two wks which I didn't account for money wise, I have to precious children at home to take care and the house to run.. so Exactly why is it NOT alright for me to cry once in awhile?????? 99% of the time Im the strong one, but you know what im aloud weak moments damn it!!