The Grind - all the work with minimal results

[ms ladybug]

Dan,
I love your candidness and your moodiness. Don't think for a moment that your the first to question WTH you're doing, and why doesn't it make any sense. And, truthfully, it doesn't. I don't think MWD is saying that you need to sacrifice your life for a lying, cheating spouse. She is saying that the pain and suffering of divorce is greater than working to the bones to save a marriage that is salvagable. She also goes to GREAT lengths to make sure that YOU are GAL, and taking care of yourself.

Your kids are lucky to have such an awesome dad. Of course they hurt, but having a dad that cares...wow. Most children of broken homes don't have that...and it MATTERS.

You're on a roller coaster. You know that. You mentioned in my thread about being angry, and singing loudly in your car. I took your advice the other morning and it helped. I'll tell you a secret. I have an ipod with a VERY eclectic mix of music. I have some Rascal Flatts, Dixie Chicks, Todd Agnew, even Amy Grant. I have all my kids cutsie songs. I have Disney Pixar short movies, and Sesame Street episodes. Mixed into all the fluff, I have my angry song. I listen to it when that intense anger hits me (as long as I'm alone - no kids). It's called "Die MF Die" by Dope. Go download it now. It helps. Of course, it's only to be used in intense anger.

Then...get over it! Suck it up. Decide what you want and what you're willing to do or NOT do. Have a plan. Get to it. And be PATIENT!

Oh, and no one has to summon me...I'm everywhere!