So we had it out tonight...

[Livin4ME]

Thanks for the post Sir...it did help. I'm not sure if you've read my other post. If not, it's OW is PG.
It's so frustrating ya know!! We did try a C a long time ago...we made it to one session together...then he took off again. I really do understand it's hard. That it is like a drug. But I guess I have a hard time understanding why HE doesn't understand how hard it is for me as well ya know.
Tonight after I posted this thread, he got in the shower and the bonehead didn't even ask for help! He had surgery on his knee 2 days ago!!! So I go in the bathroom cuz I left my phone in there and he's standing there on his crutches looking like he's about to pass out! I asked him if he got in the shower, he said yes, I asked if he was ok, he said no. So while I'm helping him get dressed I asked, "Why didn't you tell me so I could help you?!" his response was, "Cuz I thought you wanted to be by yourself, so I didn't wanna bother you." Ummmm...hello?! So I told him that's what I'm here for, is to help him! Did I mention clueless?! I got him all situated, gave him his meds and came back into the office.
I'm just not gonna bring it up again for now. Alot will be told tonight when we go to bed. If he goes with me or sleeps on the couch.