Letting go, Moving on

[frank_D]

what will happen frank when you tell her it isn't ok for her to just drop by whenever to check her email or to come in your house and putz around????

She doesn't just drop by. She calls and asks permission first. She stays for maybe 10-15 minutes on average.

Personally, I think she is starting to feel the rejection.

Here's a recent event.

She called about an hour ago, asked if she could come by because D13 called her and asked her to. So they can talk about school and other things.

I said "sure, I'm up to my armpits in alligators so I'll be in my office putting out fires"

She came over and was here for about 20 minutes. Didn't come to my office at all. Then she leaves and calls my cell.

W: Since you're up to your armpits in alligators did you have a plan for dinner? I can come back and make food for you guys (D13 and me)

Me: Yes, I wsa planning on going out to get something after checking in with D13 to see what she was interested in. I'm almost done with my work and I like the break.

W: Are you sure? I don't mind.

Me: Yeah, I'm good. Thanks for offering.

W: Do you want me to pick up D17 later? I don't mind.

Me: Sure, if you want to. I like picking her up from BFs house because it gives me a break from the office.

W: Well, I don't want to take away your break. Besides your car get's better mileage than mine. (I have the Prius, she has the minivan)

Me: Ok, I'll get her then.

W: I'm going to Trader Joes right now, is there anything I can get for the kids?

Me: Yeah, they like the burritos that are there.

W: Ok, I'll bring them by. Well, bye.

Me: Bye.

[SirPrizeMe]

And, along the same lines as fig, Frank, why are you encouraging her to stay on your cell plan and insurance?

Seems unusual to me.

[fig]

Frank

she may be feeling the rejection...as she should.

no need to defend why you do what you do

if LSS called me and politely asked to come over I would politely tell him to shove it up in his nearest orifice


I am just wondering what will happen when you say that she can't come over

[frank_D]

And, along the same lines as fig, Frank, why are you encouraging her to stay on your cell plan and insurance?

Seems unusual to me.

Because if she pays half, it saves me money since she subsidizes the girls two phones. Simple economics. It's a flat rate with rollover.

Same with insurance. She pays half, it subsidizes D17.

Besides, some one has said that as long as you are legally married, you're liable for accidents. This way we have higher coverage levels. Just covering my butt.

[frank_D]

Frank

she may be feeling the rejection...as she should.

no need to defend why you do what you do

She probably is. I don't defend myself at all. I feel pretty good.

if LSS called me and politely asked to come over I would politely tell him to shove it up in his nearest orifice

Lot's of anger there. I don't have that much anger at W. Just disappointment.

I am just wondering what will happen when you say that she can't come over

Hmm, I'll have to try that when it's appropriate. I don't think it is if D13/D17 ask her to come over. She really doesn't come over much.

[SirPrizeMe]

Oh, ok, gotcha. You sound good, Frank.

[phoenyx]

that dude i pointed you to last night, i am listening to his stuff on forgiveness. it is really good stuff, wish i heard it 3 years ago.

[SirPrizeMe]

which dude? can you point again?

[phoenyx]

his name is ed young, i told frank about him on the phone. (sg, i didn't point...don't find me and beat me up ) the only info i can give without breaking the whole advertising thing is to google his name and he has an excellent podcast(free, again not advertising) about betrayal...

[SirPrizeMe]

gotcha, tx.