Welcome to my thread! I serve wine over here as well - what's your pleasure. I don't believe there is much a little wine can't help - do you?
I was really surprised to read that you don't get that many posts. It was SO busy over there when I was there. But fear not - many caring people will do their best to help - just ask.
I may be a few years ahead of you in the whole process - but I remember it all VERY vividly. Today is the 7 year anniversary of the BOMB for me. Something I'll never forget.
In my 7 years - I have seen a lot of things happen. And although some of us didn't save our marriages - I know some that did. And no matter what - none of us knows for sure how each situation will turn out - including yours.
So hang in there for the roughest roller coaster ride of your life. Try to take from the others what you feel will help you. Then politely thank the rest and do what you feel is right.
