Root it's hard to tell. She tells our best friend she has no intention of coming ban but our friend keeps telling me she always comes back. The OM told her he'd be back too. Probably ticked her off
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
Woops. The OM told my wife that she'd come back to me. Major typo there. Wife says I will be served tomorrow or Friday
Don't believe ANYTHING they say and only about 1/2 of what they do.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
heard that time and time again. I just wish I could believe it. everything I hear about divorce is coming from my best friend. apparently my wife tells her everything (whether its purposely to get back to me or not).
almost at the 3 month mark since the bomb
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
I realize I'm the only person who can truly answer this, but I am looking for opinions from the WASs and LBSs:
do you THINK I have a better chance at reconciliation if I sign the divorce papers or not ?
some WASs, later down the road, would be thankful I held out, while others have changed their mind immediately after their spouse signed the papers and reality sunk in.
just curious
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
well wife asked if I got the papers in the mail today...must be coming tomorrow.....she's serious.......she is quitting smoking though i'm proud of her.
M 31 W 26 M 6 S 6 S 3 Separated 6/2008 Back together 10/2008 All you need is love
I don't know about your state, but in CA there was a deadline and by not signing the papers I remember there being negative consequences to me regarding assets and custody. Do you have an attorney yet? Get a very good one...
I personally believe if you don't sign it she will only be angry at you and want the D even more.
Once you get it just tell her you aren't signing it until you have your attorney go over it. This will buy you time.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Lengthening out the D!!! You want it to go as s-l-o-w-l-y as possible. This allows time for thinking, healing and POSSIBLE reconciliation.
For example, I didn't sign until I absolutely had to, and I let my attorney know I wanted the D to drag out as long as possible. I figured this would buy me the time to turn things around... if that was even going to happen. Even though I knew it might not, I wanted to give it a chance.
And even if we didn't reconcile, it would give me the time to heal, lots of time to work through the baggage, and be ready for a new life once the whole thing was over.
Also, never sign any legal papers without going over them with an attorney. Learn your options, and learn the laws in your state.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
i'm proud of her.