Two affairs in 5 months....

[marisol35]

Hi Saffie,

I actually did think about all that is happening is why he is doing everything he can to not be home because its 'depressing' there and he is all about being positive and being around positive people. His business failing, the finances, his mom being ill, his daughter rejecting him, and the way I am when he is there (because I am angry) all push him from wanting to be there. The OW is 21 so she is happy all the time telling him how great and fantastic he is and how in love with him she is and all these things that draw him to her.

I do have a strong feeling he is going to crash and burn b/c when I decide to take back the truck he is driving and if he does not help me with the cell phone bill I plan to shut it off. The truck he drives is in the bankruptcy I filed because it was in my name. I gave him until the end of Sept to get another vehicle. The cell phone is in my name too and when he went to the provider to get another plan they wouldn't give him one b/c of his credit score so he just bought a new phone and extended the plan for his phone number another 2 years. I told him I could not afford to pay for it (we have 5 people on it) plus he added Internet access which is another fee. I am paying for everything in my house right now and to me my cell and my daughters are my only priority. I told him the truck is mine if I'm paying for it in the BK. We will see how long the OW likes driving around in a beat up car b/c he can't get a loan with his credit. Maybe she will have to drive him around?

I don't know. It is just so overwhelming. I read all these stories too and feel the pain other people are going through and it's just so disturbing to see how people can do these things with no regard for other people's feelings, emotions, and how it destroys self-esteem, pride, self worth..... Maybe I'm wrong for saying it but for me when I ever encountered or met a married person they were off limits (when I was single or even this short time I was married). I could not step into that because I would always think about the W especially if they had children.