hey there, sorry you find yourself in this situation. There are two kind of people who have As, the one time/one night stand, and the chronic adulterers, your H seems to be the latter and the hardest kind of person to deal with as they have to admit they have a problem.
First of all, he should be contributing to the household because of the kids, he legally abandoned the home and could be in huge trouble in court for that, make sure that he gives you what he ought to, otherwise file for child support, take care of yourself and the kids financially.
There is always hope despite anything, obviously there is something lacking in him, have you asked him what was it that bothered him in your M? have you looked at yourself and see where you went wrong as well? it takes two for things to go wrong. Sometimes we messed up with the best of intentions, we dont' realize that certain things we do alienate the spouse. I hope you are able to see a C on your own, I know the pain is blinding but you will be ok regardless.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
