I was never in love with you

[LinTheMonk]

Temporarily hijacking this thread, my apologies to Johnc...

Meatpuppet, you sound just like what my H might be saying if he posted on here. He and I were very passionate before we were married and afterwards, the spark just died, pretty much instantly. He says he feels beaten down by me and doesn't want to be with me or be intimate with me. I've asked him what he does want but he doesn't answer, I think he's given up believing that I am capable of giving him anything he wants. At this point, though, I think we *are* both working to create a connection. It is incredibly hard though.

As a man who has been in a similar situation to my H, do you have any suggestions for me? If you do, PM me or post in my super long thread, I don't want to completely derail this one. >.>;