Hi again HC...honey, I hope you do explore more and more into SA and recovery (for yourself). Also, I don't know how to say this without freaking you out but...you need to realize that victims of abuse sometimes become abusers themselves.
I am wondering how educated your children are about abuse? Meaning that, you really should question them about any possible abuse. Again, please don't freak out. I am only saying this because one of my children was sexually abused and so I am all for trying to talk to kids directly and early about such things...since in my case if I had probed my child a little more about things the abuse may have been discovered earlier. NOT all victims become abusers so please don't think I am demonizing your H. I just want you to really look into all areas of your life to make sure his childhood victimization didn't also become part of your children's lives.
Read everything you can about the topic, ok? You do need to be armed with education. He will always be their father and although he may be a good parent, given his (obvious) addiction and skewed views of the world, he does need to be on watch, so to speak.
