"It's like a blow everytime he shuts me off again."

So then why do you stay around long enough to allow it? Leave. Go somewhere, do not be around when he comes over.

Is the new insurance in both your names and if so, you can call, otherwise, let it go and let him deal with it.

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19