Here I am....real life and all.

[RSmiles]

If he was a brand new man in my life, I would not be interested in him.

The new guy is so nice. This is someone I can see myself spending more time with....not my xh.

Sara, how wonderful! Good for you! I agree you sound really strong right now. That is a great thought to think of xh as someone you have just met and evaluate him that way. My stbx too is in sorry shape - anyone deserves better than that in a relationship.