Thanks cat! I was definitely in a low spot the other day, better today. Got an all business email from stbx today, he's actually paying off his part of a huge past due bill soon. Funny, now that I'm gone he's actually becoming responsible and borrowing money to pay off bills. Wow.... well that's a blessing for me b/c I did not need to have my credit get worse. It's also clear that he was completely using me in our R money-wise. Whatever, that's over now though. (For anyone who's followed my sitch- in my M I paid for most of the bills and stbx could care less about past due debt. I would try to talk about it and he would just get mad and say he had no money.) Wow, I just hope he can refinance the house then like he supposedly plans to. Maybe he'll borrow the money for other bills too? Could I be so lucky?! On another note, it feels so weird to be so close to someone for so long and then all the sudden practically become strangers with virtually no contact. In my sitch, I live over 2,000 miles away from stbx now, and we've emailed a couple times only. It does make it easier to move on, but it also brings on the feelings of a dramatic 'loss' which makes me reflect a lot and think way too much about our M. Stbx is 'gone' from my life now, he sends business emails to tie up our financial affairs and that's it. As for the moving on part, I had a great time tonight meeting some new people in my career field at a meetup event held at a coffee shop. Already got invited by a couple people to an art gallery night and then another group dinner event tomorrow. Not dates, just a group of new friends to hang out with. It feels so good to be getting out and making new friends!! I think I can handle this!
Me 40 H 39 2nd M- 6 months No kids Previous D, 1st M DBer from 2003