Is he starting to come home?

[No Longer BH]

Thanks for the encouraging words ROOT. I am trying to invite H to do things only every so often. Non threatening kind of things. Dont want to seem to pushy. I did leap into a sitch with him without meaning too, it just slipped out. I have invited H to a concert that we both love because the person I was going to go with had to cancel. It kind of came out by accident. He first said, wow, didnt expect that from you, then said I need some time to think about it. I respond with, "If you need time to think about it then it prob is not a good idea. I really did not mean it. I just had an extra ticket and did not want to go alone." He's like "No,no, just give me a day to think on it." I said I had to have an answer by Friday. He said he would tell me on Wednesday. Well, I did not hear anything from him today concerning it at all. Here are my different scenarios to respond with:

1. He agrees by Friday: thanks, I appreciate it because I did not want to go alone. We can just meet there and enjoy it as friends.

2. I dont hear from him at all: Say nothing about it and just find someone else to go with.

3. He says no: I say' "I was just going to talk to you about that. Turns out my friend just said they could go so was going to ask you if it was ok not to go. You really got me out of a bind in that one."

See, I think I have learned enough from DBing to be able to turn a potenial bad into a good (artificially trying to gain confidence that all will be ok). If he says no, I will take it as a sign to back off some and let him have his space. Just means he is not ready yet. Like Leni said, "You can either have faith or fear. There is no room for both. I you fear that he will walk away then you put that energy out to the universe, so the universe will make sure that is exactly what happens. Have faith that he will come back and the universe will work its wonders to make that happen." I chose FAITH.

I would love to hear from others their thoughts as well.