I saw my lawyer today, spent a good long session with her hammering out more details for the Separation Agreement and settlement. She's been in contact with W's L, knows her and even has another current case in which they are representing divorcing clients. Small world.
My L thinks that we're not so far apart anymore that W and I can't come to agreement on a document we can each sign with some confidence. It might be just a matter of weeks now. She also said that in her conversation with W's atty. she had advised W to not file for D until we had accomplished a signed agreement first. So that explains why W has not yet filed, despite being eligible for nearly two months now -- she's simply complying with her L's advice.
I'm no longer fighting this, but I'm still not going to advance it either.
I'll talk more later. Right now I need some sleep.