Alright, I have never had angst on any of my threads until last night for the first time. I hope this does not become a pattern. Since, I have news to tell all, I will do so now, and hope this angst goes away. If AG wants to post on my thread, I welcome it. If Barbie has something positive to say, I welcome that as well. Otherwise, let's please be kind to each other.
On another note, MY SITCH for instance, I had a voicemail from my H a half hour ago, saying he will be coming home after work to "do his laundry." If you are AT ALL FAMILIAR with my thread, you know that I have hardly seen even glimpses of him for nearly three months. You also know that he only comes home when he thinks I am not here. I begged him Sunday night not to come home. I begged him to "go do his laundry somewhere else." I said that I would be home on Monday and Tuesday, and so, he opted to stay away the past two days when he absolutely was planning to come do his laundry. I guess you could say, I tricked him into believing I would not be here today since I was here for the past two days.
This is the only chance I have to DB. Please support me on this. I have taken a shower, used this really expensive exfoliating scrubb, washed my hair, put on a pair of tight jeans and a tight top, and now I am going to put on my *new* makeup. Just 10 minutes ago, I took an anti-axiety pill (something I have not used in weeks).
When he comes, I'll say hello, look into his eyes as deeply as possible and tell him I love you with my eyes. I hope he gets it, but if he doesn't well, as Puppy or Bworl said, "That's his loss." Then, I'm going to leave.
Poet: I wish with all my hear that it works. But I learned a long time ago that nothing I did made a difference. And yes - I did it all - lost 40 lbs, dressed sexy, made his favourite food, was kind, never talked R, never asked questions - you name it. And he really did not notice.
But I will say a prayer for you and wish you the best. Please let us know.
poet....just sayin hi. listen to the advice you've been given. go dark kiddo...go dark. right now, its the only tunnel that appears to be working for you....
stay strong girlie...i believe in you
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
On another note, MY SITCH for instance, I had a voicemail from my H a half hour ago, saying he will be coming home after work to "do his laundry." If you are AT ALL FAMILIAR with my thread, you know that I have hardly seen even glimpses of him for nearly three months. You also know that he only comes home when he thinks I am not here. I begged him Sunday night not to come home. I begged him to "go do his laundry somewhere else." I said that I would be home on Monday and Tuesday, and so, he opted to stay away the past two days when he absolutely was planning to come do his laundry. I guess you could say, I tricked him into believing I would not be here today since I was here for the past two days.
This is the only chance I have to DB. Please support me on this. I have taken a shower, used this really expensive exfoliating scrubb, washed my hair, put on a pair of tight jeans and a tight top, and now I am going to put on my *new* makeup. Just 10 minutes ago, I took an anti-axiety pill (something I have not used in weeks).
When he comes, I'll say hello, look into his eyes as deeply as possible and tell him I love you with my eyes. I hope he gets it, but if he doesn't well, as Puppy or Bworl said, "That's his loss." Then, I'm going to leave.
Poet,
My suggestion would be to dress like that, and be ready to go -- purse and car keys in hand -- and ready for him to pull up. When he does, walk out of the house, wave at him and smile FROM A DISTANCE, get into your car, and drive off with a friendly "toot! toot!" of the horn.
I do not think you are ready to engage him, nor do I think it is at all "dark".
I think Puppy Dog Tails has the best advice. I know you'd like to see him and talk to him. My guess is he may not even get near the house if he sees you are home. So, be ready to go. I wish you luck. Catch you later, sis.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
Go with Puppy on this one, Poet. The last thing he needs is to see you trying to impress him. He knows you want him back and the sweet smell of some scented perfume or scrub or whatever it is just ain't gonna do it! People tend to want what they can't have, if he thinks he can't have you then i think you stand a better chance here. You've played the "I want you" card, now it's time to pull the old 180 and let him think you're doing just fine. Smile and wave.
just ain't gonna do it! People tend to want what they can't have, if he thinks he can't have you then i think you stand a better chance here. You've played the "I want you" card, now it's time to pull the old 180 and let him think you're doing just fine. Smile and wave.