you're sick, you need help. you hate women, and you will never "have" Christ until you try to emulate him.
Really sorry you feel that way, but it isn't true.
I do not hate woman. I love woman. I'm not sick. I'm hurting. Yes I need help. I need support. Everywhere I go I get yelled at by someone. Even my own Mother after I repeatedly said I was sorry to her. She blew up my phone last night. 15 calls.
Oh, and I do have Christ.
Unfortunatly, you are now banned. Because you are venomous snake. When you calm down, and say sorry. I might talk to you again.
Now I have asked certain people not to post to me, but they continue. I have a notion to respond to them.
I am being nice. It seems everyone else is nasty. Can sling words and mud like it is nothing. If I give one ounce of showing anger towards it. My thread gets locked or I get my hand slapped.
I think a great deal of people on here just want to fill there bellies with my drama. Really I don't understand what is so fascinating about me. Perhaps it is my contempt. Perhaps it is truth I speak. Perhaps it is my endurance.
There is a Turkish word called Sarsilmaz... It means can't be shaken.
I'm not shaken in my faith. I'm not shaken in my hope. I'm not shaken in my response. Speaking of endurance. The endurance of lostPhils love for his wife was not arrested even by her _______.
In all honesty, lately I feel you are a little off kilter.
I refrain from posting for fear of being attacked by you if I don't agree with your words.
My personal opinion is that you have been very harsh and rude to so many people who really want to help you.
If you don't like what they post on your thread, don't respond, just ignore them. Eventually they will get the message.
Nobody wants to see you fail.
It would give us all the greatest pleasure to see you as a success story.
But... you have to be the one to initiate the new dance moves. It is obvious to all who post to you that nothing will change until you begin to make changes to yourself.
Begin with less defensiveness.
Try being a gentle warrior.
We really are all wanting to help you to succeed.
(((((hugs)))))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Phil, I can relate and understand the pain and grief you are going through.
I miss my wife tremendously and she is hurting the children and me. But something I have noticed is that she is hurting herself too.
I ask myself "why should she come home?" Has she dealt with what has driven her away? Have I dealt with my own shortcomings?
As much as I want her to come home for the logical and obvious reasons, I really want her to reach these conclusions on her own. I no longer pray for her to come home as my primary prayer but that God will draw her to Him and she will know the peace that can only be obtained from a relationship with Him. If this happens, everything else will fall in place.
Faith is something that is good to self-question. I always question my level of faith in that it is easy to be drawn away from what is right. Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."
My focus has been on the spiritual leadership of my family. The leadership that I had taken for granted for many years. I have my children 95% or more of the time and they have been hurt deeply by what has happened.
I had two choices (or more if you want to be more granular); I could either choose a path where I could add to the damage that my wife has caused or I could do God's will and lead my children toward Him, so they could see a man that loves the Lord is not either weak or harsh. They know that nearly two years after their mom walked out that they can count on me to not only take care of them but to show love to them, to their mother and continue to show respect to those around me (including my wife).
Phil, this site doesn't have to be more to you than a place to vent but it should be. It is a great place to weigh ideas, provide insight to others and to learn.
I urge you to consider that the other people on this site are dealing with their own pain resulting from a spouse that has chosen to go on without them.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
You keep saying goodbye, but then you come back with wickedry and accoutre events to overwhelm me. Question my love for God. My faith for God. My truth about his Church.
So I guess I'll see you on the next encore.
I don't act Christ like. St. Jerome Amy, he was a cranky as they come.
You still didn't answer my questions? When are you going home Amy?
When Amy feels it's time to stop being selfish. I wonder? Go home it sounds like you wear the pants anyways. Tell him like it is.
Godwoman vs. Godman ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Somebody really needs to put you in your place. Maybe that is why I'm here. Why you are here. Maybe we need to put each other in place.
BND, sorry if you feel I'm being rude to people. It is not my intention. They are trying to overwhelm me. Then they talk about me on different threads like this is high school.
Phil, I think most people that post to you want to genuinely want to help you.It is like a car accident. Some people want to just stop and stare at the carnage, and some people want to actually stop and try to help.
I hope and pray your wife comes back. But she will need lots of time, mlc is no picnic. I have treated my wife with nothing but love and respect over the last 9 months.We are friends, but she still is working on the divorce papers, and will probably have them finished in the next month.
So, there are no guarantees. It all comes down to the Lords will and his timing. You cannot rush Gods will. You can fight it, argue about it, but you cannot change it.
We all know how you are feeling, everyone on here has at one point felt the same way.
God wants a humble Phil, He cannot work on you if you do not humble yourself before him. He is the answer to all your questions.No matte how your wife treats you, you need to love her regardless. She is hurting, she is confused, please don't make it worse. Let go of your pride Phil.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
Two years brother. I feel for you. I don't want to go two more minutes.
Here is what I don't understand. My wife was always high strung and greatly passionate about us and what I was doing or not doing. Where she could constantly say I was doing something wrong.
Now she just doesn't even care... The kids, they are hurting, but they are doing incredibly well. Why? Because of Disney dad, and I don't just mean buyting them stuf.
