Welcome to the Jungle WAW#14

[missmyfriend]

Phil, I can relate and understand the pain and grief you are going through.

I miss my wife tremendously and she is hurting the children and me. But something I have noticed is that she is hurting herself too.

I ask myself "why should she come home?" Has she dealt with what has driven her away? Have I dealt with my own shortcomings?

As much as I want her to come home for the logical and obvious reasons, I really want her to reach these conclusions on her own. I no longer pray for her to come home as my primary prayer but that God will draw her to Him and she will know the peace that can only be obtained from a relationship with Him. If this happens, everything else will fall in place.

Faith is something that is good to self-question. I always question my level of faith in that it is easy to be drawn away from what is right. Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."

My focus has been on the spiritual leadership of my family. The leadership that I had taken for granted for many years. I have my children 95% or more of the time and they have been hurt deeply by what has happened.

I had two choices (or more if you want to be more granular); I could either choose a path where I could add to the damage that my wife has caused or I could do God's will and lead my children toward Him, so they could see a man that loves the Lord is not either weak or harsh. They know that nearly two years after their mom walked out that they can count on me to not only take care of them but to show love to them, to their mother and continue to show respect to those around me (including my wife).

Phil, this site doesn't have to be more to you than a place to vent but it should be. It is a great place to weigh ideas, provide insight to others and to learn.

I urge you to consider that the other people on this site are dealing with their own pain resulting from a spouse that has chosen to go on without them.