Why 50/50? She has been perfectly satisfied not having them 50% of the time. The longer this goes on the more of a precedence has been set for less visitation for her, although if she wants to step up to the plate I'm not suggesting you hog the kids.
Sorry Phoenix, I missed this post while typing mine.
From the very beginning she has suggested that we both agree to split custody evenly. I initialy was not ok with that for a few reasons mainly I didn't want to trade the kids around nor is it really acceptable to me to miss out on seeing them every day.
As the sitch progressed and I db'd and worked on myself I reallised that eventually I had to be ok with "some" sort of arrangement if we split up for good. So I agreed to 50/50 a week on, a week off once my W gets a job and can find housing suitable for the kids to live with her some of the time.
This both makes me terribly sad yet at the same time fills me with resolve to get on with my life. If the 50/50 ever comes to be I will have no trouble filling my "me" week with fun events for myself and my "kid" weeks with fun stuff for the three of us.
The whole thing is a little complicated because I will not have legal custody of my stepdaughter if we are divorced. W wants me to act "as-if" I do.
She does seem to be enjoying her super awesome single life but "she say's" it's unfulfilling and she misses the kids. Actions speak louder than words though, especially in this situation.
I like having the kids with me almost all the time. At first it was a bit of a shock to be in single dad mode but we have been really finding our groove. I'd say that some areas of our life are better than ever due to the changes that have occured lately.
Me:34 W:31 d's 5 & 10 M: 5 years, T: 8, Bomb1 3/8/08,#2:3/28/08 Asked 4 D:4/19/08, discovered PA 5/8/08,W moved out 6/30/08 W pregnant by OM: 2/17/08
