Just dropping by. I tend to agree with Alimari that getting a job would in all likelihood be very good for your wife. It would challenge her and validate her in ways that being a wife and mother do not.
In my own situation I was at one stage caught in what I then regarded as a dilemma, but was in fact classic nice guy thinking.
On the one hand, I was resentful at being the breadwinner but not getting sex "in return". But my wife was herself also depressed due to spending so much time at home (and probably also being married to such a moody and angry man).
But... instead of pushing her and motivating her to get out and do something, I'm ashamed to say I didn't, my skewed thinking being that if I did, there would then be even less opportunity for sex. This in turn led to even more resentment on my part.
I'm not saying that this was ever your situation. But I am saying (1) don't underestimate the importance of work and the outside world even to the SAHM woman, and (2) do not think that sex and passion is necessarily a byproduct of making a woman's life easy with plenty of spare time - if anything it can work the other way!
Ultimately, if your wife truly appreciates the importance of passion and ML to you, she will ensure it happens, no matter what her hours of work. Just my $0.02.
How is the jobhunting going for you?
S&A
"A man can be destroyed but not defeated" - from The Old Man and the Sea, by Ernest Hemingway.
Which I take to mean that every man has within him a spirit of relentlessness and optimism. Its already there; he just has to cultivate it.
