Part of my confusion is that I am not really talking to her. Going as dark as possible considering the kids. Not being her friend. Not nothing. If my goal is to somehow reconcile(and I now question this, too)when do I know when its time to start to talk more? To try to break through her wall. If OM is in the picture still, I guess the time never comes. Of course, we're not even separated a month yet.
That's actually a great question, H4H. I'm not an expert, but I would say "When she makes what you are CERTAIN is a sincere move back toward you and your marriage, including no-contact w/OM."
