((((Handsome)))) Ooooh, now you're talking- inside info- LOVE IT!!
I totally agree- H must be muddled up to be confusing all of us like he is. I guess he sees us as friends with the odd pang of feeling attracted to me, and the two things are warring in him at the moment. (?)
As to CEO, well, I wouldn't need to talk to him if you'd get your hot little tushie over here to see my socks
Like I said before, maybe its his Pisces Moon - two fish heads swimming in opposite directions. He's getting something from you he cant get from her, but its not a 2 + 2 = 4, its a 2+2 = makes no sense at all!!! When is your wedding anniversary? You had said to him to think of something to do for it didnt you?
Ali x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I've finally caught up. I had lost your thread for a while and didn't realize it!
Your H is one seriously confusing DAM isn't he? He obviously loves you and doesn't know what to do about it. Keep up what you are doing because it is obviously drawing him back little by little.
Curious, has he ever said anything apologetic to you about what he has done?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
- In December after going away for the weekend with the aub he told me the following week that he felt guilty and ashamed of the way he was behaving and wouldn't blame me for never wanting to talk to him again. - In July after my backslide he said he was sorry and never meant to be so mean. - When we were first S (last September) we'd meet every week for dinner or a drink and he'd always cry when we said goodbye, I guess because of guilt. - One day last October he was really crying terribly and said he was such a bad person, and that he should be looking after me.
*sigh* if only he'd realise he actually does love me enough (when he dropped the bomb he said he didn't love me enough- not as much as John loves Jane (our two good friends, names changed!)).
Ali- yes, he's definitely getting something from me that he doesn't get from her. I can only assume it's amazingness. LOL!
Our anniversary is tomorrow. I did suggest a couple of activities to him last week but he looked really shocked and surprised when I did so I didn't mention it again. Today he sent me an e-mail talking mainly about football and work and asking if I want to go for 'dinner and drinks or something' tomorrow night. I wrote back later in the day mainly talking about football and work myself, and saying that tomorrow would be good. I also said I was having the afternoon off so am flexible with times.
No reply this afternoon, so I sent a short text to check my mail got through. He's just replied saying he did get the message and will call me tomorrow morning to arrange something. Fly by night Still, I shouldn't complain he was probably busy today and it was nice of him to actually ask me out tomorrow. He didn't have to.
How are you guys? Any advice on how to behave tomorrow night (apart from not asking him to drill my possum). It seems a bit odd going out for our wedding anniversary if we're just friends but I want to play it right. And what should I wear? Classy? Or mini-skirt and boots ensemble again? (I'm working in the morning, so nothing too risque obviously!)
My instinct says classy! It feels more respectful of you anniversary to me, and maybe he'll pick up on that. If he actually has a brain in his head!
It is interesting that he has expressed regret like that, but hasn't done anything to change what he is doing. That seems to be one of the puzzlers of MLC!
WOW. I am amazed. I am also amazed you are so calm - thats huge! Ok, so he didnt come up with a stellar date, but the fact he has suggested going out at all on your anniversary speaks volumes to me and is hugely positive. I'm so thrilled for you !
I reckon you shouldnt wear anything too formal, so no boots and skirt. Go casualish but flirty!? - how about a knee length dress? With shoes? Or if its cold/rainy, fitted trousers and pretty top?? Make sure you have lots of really nice jewellery/hair done, so you look classy, but dont go too OTT on the clothes?
As for how you should act.. you may as well treat it as a date, lots of eye contact, the off brush of his small of the back or squeeze of the knee, offer him to taste your food off your fork, that kind of thing!?
I'd be pleased as punch if I was you (as much as you can, present circumstances permitting hey!) that he has asked you for dinner on your wedding anniversary, thats really really great news Lisa, hugs to you, keep your eyes on the prize.
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
YAY! That's so awesome that he wants to get together tomorrow of all days!
(((Lisa)))
Well, do more of what works right? So, what kind of stuff has gotten the best reaction from him? Combined with what kind of place you end up going to of course.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Michelle is right, do more of what works. Also, and this is just me, but I wouldn't bring up that it is your anniversary unless he does, then validate, as it might seem like pressure. He will know what day it is... Keep it light.
Still, I shouldn't complain he was probably busy today and it was nice of him to actually ask me out tomorrow. He didn't have to.