You're mind in the right place..it's just going to be hard to be strong enough to follow through with what you are saying. Just keep remembering that if you don't ladybug will taz you!!!!
Floyd, you don't know me but I read your recent story. Let me ask you - would you want a woman that does that to her man?
Do you want to be a man who has inappropriate conversations with a woman, when there is another man in the background assuming she is faithful?
It just feels like a soap opera. What will stop her from doing the same thing to you one day, when you are engrosed in your fantasy football league, and she feels slighted or needs attention?
I'm not angry at her as some people have said - maybe she doesn't even know what she's doing? Maybe she cannot help herself. But the point is you enable by responding and in some cases initiating ("I'm curious how your new breasts feel.") It's the same with you - you know the right thing is to stop contact but you keep going back. No one is angry with you but I see a bunch of people trying to show you what they SEE. Trying to help YOU see what THEY see.
Do you want to be a part of that soap opera? Sure you want her, but... like this?
Thanks everybody for your input. I appreciate it. You all have me thinking really hard about what is going on. I need to take a few days and get my head screwed on straight.
Originally Posted By: SirPrizeMe
Do you want to be a man who has inappropriate conversations with a woman, when there is another man in the background assuming she is faithful?
Absolutely not. I've struggled with that. I guess I never really accepted the situation for what it is and have kind of felt like we still have our R, when we dont.
Do you guys think she is conciously stringing me along, or do you think its just that she is struggling with her thoughts, but doesn't realize how it's affecting things?
I had an appointment this evening with a client. She sent me a text before I was getting ready to leave asking me if I wanted her to meet me at my office this evening. I told her no, not until she gets her situation straightened out. She told me it might be a while then. I told her that was ok. She then said she wished she wasn't in a relationship. I replied by saying that I did too, but it is what it is...and I left it at that.
I haven't spoken to her since, and won't be for a while until I get some things figured out for myself.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
I had an appointment this evening with a client. She sent me a text before I was getting ready to leave asking me if I wanted her to meet me at my office this evening. I told her no, not until she gets her situation straightened out. She told me it might be a while then. I told her that was ok. She then said she wished she wasn't in a relationship. I replied by saying that I did too, but it is what it is...and I left it at that.
Great job Floyd!
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Do you guys think she is conciously stringing me along, or do you think its just that she is struggling with her thoughts, but doesn't realize how it's affecting things?
Personally I think she's thinking of what SHE wants more than anything else. But at the same time I don't know if she cares how anyone else feels or she doesn't give it much thought.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I agree with JenInVen - it feels to me that she is not stringing you along to be purposefully manipulative; she is just hungry, in pain, lonely, needy, worried.
Am I doing the right thing? I kinda miss the sex.. Floyd wasn't so bad. This new guy .. .the flame is sort of dissipating with him. Oh my gosh what did I do? I wonder if Floyd would take me back? I bet he would, especially with the new boobs. But I'm afraid of going back. I don't want to look at the mess!
But whatever, that is just me getting in her head which is NOT where I should be. If I were in your shoes I would think about my principles and how I wanted to act in life, and I would work like hell to live up to those principles. Here's a woman in a relationship (maybe it is troubled, but that is not for me to judge)... and she is coming onto me. I would run from that. Run. Flee.
What if a co-worker came up to you and let you in on an embezzlement scam? Would you do it? Sheesh, this stuff feels dishonest. Stay away. It's not right.
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She then said she wished she wasn't in a relationship. I replied by saying that I did too, but it is what it is...and I left it at that.
In response to this, what if you said, "Well, I'm sure you'll figure out what you want." ?? That feels like an encouraging thing to say, but at the same time a gentle reminder that SHE needs to CHOOSE.
Sir, a VH Rockette is a female who posts to Jeff (Virtually Handsome - formerly known as The Wandering Poster). SG was in a good mood a while back and she stuck the nickname on us...the VH Rockettes
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Floyd I think you are really doing some great soul searching right now. I agree with everyone else, you know the old addage, don't know what you've got til its gone. She is probably rethinking her whole position, but make sure SHE is sure before you recommit. She needs to get her life straightened out because you do not want to go through all this again.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I agree that she needs to be sure, before I recommit. I'm not even sure if that is possible at this point. So far she has only shown interest in using me for sex. Everything else, other than little snipits here and there, are only signs that she doesn't want me back, but doesn't love this new guy like she thought she did.
She might be calling and texting me constantly, but there is no sign that she is interested in a commitment with me.
On a side note. She sent me a text this morning and I haven't replied. I might later this afternoon, but not yet. It didn't pertain to us at all, just something that was brought up the other day about her mom and she filled me in with some info.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
