Quoting sooner1992:But anymore when we're in bed together that's the only chance we ever get to be alone. I guess it helps though that I'm a night person and don't have to get up quite as early as my wife.
I am the night person and my H the morning one. (Although with the toddler around my time has gone all haywire now). We often joke about how nice it is to have the other watching over us as we sleep to make sure everything is alright but it does reduce our time together as you say. If you wish to spend that extra 15 minutes a day alone with your W maybe you will need to get up a little earlier so you could have some together time before you go to work for instance? Its just a thought.
Besides being very skilled at her job she tries to be Supermom - and does a pretty good job. Unfortunately she has a hard time saying no - wish that carried over to the bedroom!
Ah ha! The supermom syndrome. Give of yourself to all others until you have no more energy or time for yourself and your spouse. We all suffer from this - ie. taking our spouses for granted. One day as I was in the midst of throwing a big tantrum at my H, he very calmly and gently reproached me. He said he did not understand how I could be so sweet, nice and considerate to a stranger, a neighbour, or friend but so different towards him. Why is it that we often treat an outsider nicer than our own spouses who deserves the best from us not the worst? Hmmm... I didn't even realise that I had started to take him for granted a little until he told me this. It is so true isn't it. We put on our best face and behaviour for a stranger but not to our own spouses because we are so comfortable with them. Familiarity does breed contempt after a while if you are not careful. Similarly your W by not being able to say No to others but to you is doing the same thing. Maybe she needs a gentle reminder from you too. My H has this very good ability to stay very calm even when I am very emotional and shouting. I can tell you that it works very well.
With regard to reading material, she heard about something called "Hurried Woman Syndrome" and thought it sounded like her. She bought the book and read at least some of it, but I don't know if she ever finished it.
Great! It shows she realises her weak point and is willing to work on it.
Ironically, it included some chapters on loss of sex drive - that's probably where she stopped reading. Don't assume. Says something about your frame of mind still.
I'm doing well Sooner and will give an update when I have more time. Take care.
