If you, as you say, wore the pants in the family, then he is probably afraid of talking to you, that you would reject what he has to say, that sort of thing.

I think I would allow him to see the gentle side of you, one that listens to what he says, nodding your head, saying very little and just letting him talk.

Make him feel comfortable and peaceful in your home.

Make sense?

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19