What do you think about either of these two ideas? "One suggestion is that we meet in front of a mediator. Another is that we meet with our attorneys."
During my divorce, we handled the property settlement exactly like that...with both attorneys and a mediator. That was after neither of us could agree on what the other wanted.
All I wanted was a 50/50 split and to be as far away from my 3x cheating H as possible. He didn't want to be divorced. He wanted the W and happy home, AND the gf.
So I also know from experience that you can slow things down. Because my xh did not want the D, it took 2 years to happen. All you have to do is contest everything, and have to reschedule every court date that ever gets set.
It is very expensive however, be prepared to pay many thousands of $$ in attorney fees. Also, it will probably only make your H more angry...like it made me.
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I need that time to heal myself, and slowing down the process is an attempt at doing so.
I think it will be hard to heal yourself while going thru the legal process. Probably at best all you can hope for is being more centered and balanced. True healing may take a long time. First you have to find forgiveness.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
