Thanks so much for all of your support and for helping me to better understand what my wife might be going through. It actually does help a lot!
For the record, our "session" last night was more of a mutual initiation, if that's possible. I came to bed late, long after my wife had fallen asleep, and her arm was sort of stretched out towards my pillow. So I just laid a hand on it and was about to go to sleep. She sort of moved and made an mmmm noise like she liked it, so my hand slowly worked its way up her arm (over the course of probably 20 minutes). Upon reaching her body the mmmm's got louder and things began to progress a lot faster. Does that sound sort of like a mutual initiation? I suppose that I was technically the initiator, although that hadn't been my intention at the outset.
I think I did pretty well tonight. This will probably be really boring, but I wanted to remember what I did for future reference - just in case it does any good. First, I offered to pick up the girls from day care - which I do most of the time anyway. After getting home, my wife needed something from the store so I went out and got it - again nothing unusual. She made dinner (I had offered to grill but it started pouring outside before we started cooking), and after dinner I did all the dishes. Again, nothing really unusual. As I was finishing the dishes, my wife started giving the girls a bath. I took out the kitchen trash and remembered that it was trash night, so I went upstairs to see if the cat box needed to be cleaned out. If so, I could clean it and use the excuse that I just wanted to get it done before putting the trash out. As always, the cat box was gross, so I cleaned it up, vacuumed around it, added more litter, and took out the trash. The cat was my wife's, so besides when she was pregnant she's always taken care of the litter box. I clean it occasionally, but not often - so that was something different. Then I went around the house and gathered up all the trash, took it out to the garage, then put the trash can out on the curb. Then I helped get the girls upstairs and said goodnight to them, at which point I headed to the driving range. Didn't do too bad (for me) but no major improvements tonight. Trying to correct a bad slice with my woods.
Sorry to put everyone through all of that. I have a habit of making a short story long. By the way Corri, I think you'd do well with your website idea. You always give very sensible, down to earth advice - and you don't pull any punches. I'll let you know if I come up with any brilliant ideas for you, although that's probably unlikely.
Luvhubby, thanks for your encouragement as well. I'd like it very much if my wife would read SSM. She knows where it is - she tucked it away in a cabinet the last time I asked her to read it. I won't even mention it, but I'm hoping that she'll eventually become curious enough about it to read it.
I'm playing golf on Monday with my two best friends from elementary school. I'm sure the course will be busy being a holiday, so I'm just hoping that none of my errant shots hurt anyone. I'm off to bed!
