For the Guy with Kids and a WW 10

[Sugar and Spice]

((((H4H)))) First and foremost, thank god you are ok. I can't even imagine how scary that must be.

I'm just a lost person. I was so strong in my convictions for the last two years. I mean unwavering. I knew what I wanted. I was so SURE that I was going to come out on top. I just knew our love and history would win out. And now, she has moved out and left me. I feel betrayed in a whole new way.

I can honestly say I understand. It does get better though. I truly believe with all my heart if my H had come home the couple of times that he said he was going to, it'd already be done. As hard as it was to see him go, I know it would have been so much harder on me and the kids to have him stay. I also think that if they go, the reality of their choices sets in a little more. There isn't as much home/comfort to fall back on. Maybe I am crazy, but its what I believe. Nothing has been decided, there is no finality in your sitch, there is no closure, so stop worrying about it. Just get through today. Set some goals and try and reach them a little at a time.

I may not sound like it, but I really am trying. Or should I say struggling.

I see that you are trying, I think we all do. So don't be so hard on yourself. The things that went wrong didn't happen in 1 day, so fixing it may take a little more than that too. It hard not to get impatient, but you have to let it really sink in for it to make a difference. I'm preaching, I know...you probably hear that sound that Charlie Brown's teacher makes when she talks...lol. But be gentle with yourself and take care of you and your precious girls and son. W will have to suffer some more before she is ready to see the light. Morons...