Do Something DIFFERENT

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What are your thoughts on "If at first you don't succeed, try something different"?
Do you ever find yourself being caught in the "insanity" of trying the same thing over and over, yet expecting different results? Where do you see yourself and your relationship in these thoughts?

How often do you find yourself trying to "work harder", instead of being able to "work smarter"? What things are you doing things that you're SURE are right, but where you are actually making things worse? Where are you getting stuck on doing what you think is the "logical" thing to do, "going down with the ship", defending solutions that you are SURE are right?


Have there ever been times when you've NOT tried to defend your position? If so, what were the results?


What "cheeseless tunnels" do you find yourself going down? What "solutions" are you absolutely SURE are right, so you keep trying them over and over?



What new things, what novelties, could you introduce into your relationship? Is there anything new, any "zany" things that you did in the past that produced good results? Is your relationship too predictable? Are YOU to predictable?

Michele wants us to keep in mind that relationship enhancement is a trial and error process. That there is no such thing as failure, just useful feedback on what to try next.


What are some of the areas of your relationships where you find yourself on auto-pilot? How are you acting during these times, and what are you doing? What things could you do to shift your relationship out of this automatic mode? Can you think of any "unexpected" actions you could take, even little things, that could "change the scenery" of your relationship?

Do you have something in mind you'd like to try, but may be afraid to experiment with?