Know what you mean. My mother told me today that she has taken care of S19 for the last 5 summers, and she has gotten him to be a fine young man, and now that he is back in my house she doesn't want him to become a failure. Like I've had nothing to do with raising my son for the past 19 years, and I'm a bad influence on him! You know what they say, "If it's not one thing, it's your mother!"
Please tell me that he is not going to work tomorrow. The eye problem is not just a pain issue. Right now the sight is compromised. I have avoided mentioning the exact words my doctor told me when I showed up in her office with an infected eye. She said, "If this doesn't work, you will lose the eye." I understood what she was saying. If the treatment did not work, I would not only lose my sight through the eye but I would need to have the eye removed. You can bet I did everything they told me to do to get well. And then they called me their miracle patient.
He still sees fine with just one eye working. He can see to do everything he needs in life. But if he gets down to only seeing through one eye, think how vulnerable he will be should there be another accident. He has got to have a doctor check that eye for possible infection, and then do his drops religiously, keep his hands and face completely clean, and rest. Rest and cleanliness are important.
I hope I am not lecturing you like your mother. I feel terrible for the situation that you are in. But when push comes to shove, you have to drop all the small stuff. He'll see the kids go to school another day. And if he can't get to some jobs until he is well, then those people will need to be put off for a while. When things get tough you need to scale down and take the pressure off. Neither of you is a machine. And even if you were, we are often told the computer is down, or some other reason things have to wait. The important thing right now is for him to get well.
