Even if he is wanting to be strictly friends, he's a highly educated man with expertise in the mental health field, correct? Wouldn't it be safe to assume that he would consider the effect such a card would have on someone who still had romantic feelings of love for the sender???
You are correct, Ms.imp (how do you keep all of our details straight? you're amazing)! I think in the endorphin fueled state of MLC it really is all about him. I don't think he has the capacity to empathize or to think of anything else but his future with the OW.
On Sunday he telephoned me on his way to church. (First contact from him in a week.) He told me he was thinking he should start on the taxes (both ours and my parent's). After I concurred, he told me he wanted to stop by that day after church. I told him I had a very busy day scheduled and it wouldn't be possible that day. Also, that he hadn't given me much notice. When he asked exactly how much notice I would need because, he also had to plan a time that would fit in his schedule, I chuckled and said, "Well, more than 2 hours. Got to go... Bye".
After he returned to his apartment after church he send an e-mail apologising for being inconsiderate and gave me three time slots for me to consider although he could be flexible. He also suggested two weekends to go to my parent's house to do the wiring.
Yesterday I replied that he needn't have apologised, he just should know that I couldn't always make spontaneous plans. Also, any of the times he suggested would be fine, as long as I knew which one he preferred.
Should I be hopeful? Rather than 2 hours after work on Wednesday or 2 hours before work on Thursday, he would like to come over to the house on Saturday during the day. I'm thinking that he won't be rushed and he would be able to have time to visit with his dog pick some vegetables and enjoy the grounds. I'm thinking it might be a good idea to be gone some of the time he is here.
And Ms.imp, I'm definitely following your advice:
Originally Posted By: girlfromipanema
KEEP EXPECTATIONS ULRA LOW
Me: 59 H: 59 Together: 28 years Married: 25 years in August "There may be someone else" 12/26/07 H signed a one year lease 4/1/08 H moved out 5/11/08 H beginning to show a tiny amount of interest 7/5/08 Is it possible that he is courting me? 9/30/08
