Is he starting to come home?

[No Longer BH]

Ok, I really need some advice here. Please all of you wise souls help me. So, like I have stated H has been reaching out to me in little ways. I have been very kind and appreciated but have definately been acting as if my life is just great w/o him. Last night I saw his facebook page and there was a pic of him and OW hugging eachother with the caption "Me and Sunshine" (and, no that is not her name). I know, I know, I should not have looked, but I wanted to see what she looked like. I have always pictured her to be so pretty and here is the thing, she is NOT atractive at all and is very overweight. H had even admitted to me not so long ago that she was not very attractive. I just wanted to see for myself.

Anyway, I sent him an email saying that I got this picture of them together and wanted him to know that I was ok with him being in a relationship. That this was HIS journey now and he should take it with whomever he felt he needed to take it with. I just wanted him to know that it disappointed me that he kept lying to me as of the status of them. I was hoping to at least get to a more trusting place as we moved through our D. Again, I know, not very DBing AT ALL!!! We all slip on occasion.

He called me first thing this morning and wanted to apologise to me for seeing the pic. He said that he knew that it must have been very painful and he hoped it did not bring up too many angry feelings. He said that as far as she was concerned, he has always been honest with me - they are not in a relationship but are very good friends. He has talked in depth with her on this subject and he is just too lost still to be having a relationship with anyone. He wants to figure out who he is first then see what kind of person he wants to have a relationship with. He said that this is why he still wanted to continue with D, because he just needed to let go to find himself. I listened to everything he had to say, validated it and even told him how I undestood why he needed to leave our R to find himself. He told me that he still had deep feelings for me and that he still wanted to be connected to me (still does not think he is love with me but that was not brought up, could just tell by his words). After it was over, he thanked me many times for a great conversation and appreciated me listening to him. During this conversation he kept complimenting me, saying I am a great mother, he has always admired certain qualities in me and at time was jelous becasue he wished he had them, and he had so much respect for me.

I had to see him later tonight at S IC appointment. He thanked me again for conversation and was talking to me. Not as much as he had at the other IC, but is was still ok.

Now, here is were I need help. Do I kept acting like I just dont care if he comes back but friendly and joking and even flirty towards him or is he cake eating and just using me to build his ego and lessen his guilt. After all if we can be such good friends, then he must be a good guy despite having an A. I want my H back and I am starting to see the old him peek out. This guy has not been around for 2+ years do to MLC. Please, any advice?????