One Last Pull for this Knot to Break

[sleeper]

Back to school night drama.

X called last night to ask if I had info about back to school night. I missed call (ringer off) and called her to tell her the kids had brought a notice home but I had taken it to work. She didn't answer so I left a message.

This AM I read notice and back to school was tonight. I called X, no answer, then I texted X the info, no reply. I felt responsible because the kids had brought the notice home to me last week and I had misplaced it. I called a couple of more times during the day with no answer. She finally called about half an hour before the event, asks me to save her a seat. I told her I would if I could.

Whe she comes into auditorium she tells me OM is in office with kids (first time he has attended a function such as this) and was talking with DS's teacher because he was bullied today to the point of being pushed down and hitting his head by a child two years older than him. I nearly blew a fuse. This was the first time I was informed of this and what the H*ll was OM involving himself for? She was taken aback at my response and said he was trying to help and they had just found out about it from DS on the way there. I told her the next time I found out something important about our children she would be the second to know, and one day when I tell a girlfriend first she will understand. I made it clear that it was none of OM's business. She defended him saying he was trying to help and knew DS's teacher. It was all I could do to not ask if they planned to get married (that might change the way I feel about it).

When OM arrived in auditorium I asked what questions he had asked. "Was an incident report written?" "Uh, I don't know" "Was the other child disiplined?" "I don't think so." "Has the other child been identified as having emotional or behavioral deficits" "Uh I didn't ask." I fumed through the welcoming program. OM got a phone call during the program and left auditorium never coming back. How classy. X and I moved to our child's classroom alone. OM never joined us. I think he stayed with our children in the hall.

In the classroom X began to write me notes during the teacher's presentation. She said she would pay my PTSA dues when she paid hers. I almost said, "don't bother. We were sitting at little 4th grader desks and it was kinda weird, like being in school and misbehaving. I poked fun at her a couple of times (she was the misbehaving underachiever in school) she laughed often. I calmed down pretty quickly.

At the end of the presentation I asked if our children's Karate dues were paid up she said yes. She knew what I was thinking in light of the bullying incident and said it would be great for the kids to go back to the Dojo but she would need help getting them there. I told her I was sure OM cold help her with that. she frowned.

As we said goodbyes in the hall (all five of us) I told her I would take care of what we had discussed tonight. She asked excitedly, "taking the kids to karate?" "No" I answered, "the parent conference with DS's teacher about the bullying".

I'm going to go as dark as I can this week, but we have another back to school night to attend Thursday.