I don't think a divorce attorney is going to care about any of that. They are asking you what TERMS you want to ask for, whether you file or whether you are responding to your husband's filing. It's strictly a business and legal question, and unfortunately I am not qualified to give you advice on something like that.
I do think your husband is highly motivated, and not of his right mind right now so to speak, so the only TACTICAL suggestion I would make to you right now is is for your opening response (and I'm assuming you're responding, rather than filing yourself) is to ask for the sun, the moon and the stars, and then negotiate down from there.
He will be angry, but I've never met anyone yet who regretted asking for TOO MUCH.
I wish I could help you more, but -- as Barack likes to say -- "this is above my pay grade."
