We are in a rut. We are doing the same activities that we did when we were married. Nothing new and exciting to spark that needed interest in each other. Just mundane routine. I have got to find some type of recreational activity outside the home for us.
Dancing? Can you do stuff without her? Wouldn't it be great to tell her, oh, yeah my salsa dancing partner class is tonight, so I won't be around. Not to push her away, just to add some spice and liveliness to the picture.
Maybe take up running or biking. take a kayak tour. golf lessons. tennis. just go and do stuff. find people who will drag your hump out and force you to do stuff. Eventually she will be attracted to all the activity and fun. I'm not saying "do stuff that excludes her", I'm saying, do it on your own first, discover it and see if she is attracted inward.
what if the next time she came over you had a frozen drink maker or some other kitchen toy - something to play with. Something to DO that is different?
just some ideas. Rooting for you.
oh, and one last thought (maybe this is more for me than for you): patience. it took a while to get where you are. It will take a while to get somewhere else.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
