How long was it before you began dating? You know what is right (i.e. the pursuing, the detaching, GAL) so no time for lectures. You have it in yourself to be happy without this person. In my opinion when you discover that is when she is most likely to come running. Although we know that isn't the point. Hang in there and I will, we all will, be here for support.
I was 8 months divorced and she was 2.5 yrs sperated. When I met her, I got that "spark" I spoke of earlier. It just seemed to click in so many ways. Thought it was that way for 2 yrs.
