Not being one to be stingy with opinions, you knew I'd be jumping in here on this one, hm?
I don't know your wife...don't claim to be in her head...but this is my best guess at a situation that sounds very much like my own....
If it has been 2 1/2 weeks since your last sex argument...and you are keeping yourself busy doing other things (YEAH FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!), I'd say right about now your wife is beginning to feel guilty...she's thinking she should have sex with you, but she's pissed that she's feeling guilty. I bet she really appreciated the flowers you sent her the other day, and I bet she was even more surprised when you didn't ask for sex that night.
Right about now, she is waiting for the boom to fall. She's thinking...uh oh...it's been awhile...we haven't argued, he sent me flowers, he's been really sweet...it's coming at any moment now...and more than likely, if you initiated, she'd have sex with you. BUT DON'T DO IT. Please. Pretend like I didn't say that, k?
I'd say she's on the fence right now. DON'T JUMP THE GUN. Remember, you are creating a new dance. It is expected that you would initiate sex now. After all, you've been a good boy, yes? IF YOU INITIATE NOW, SHE WILL THINK THAT THIS WHOLE NEW BEHAVIOR THING YOU'VE GOT GOING IS JUST A NEW PLOY.
But you are a new person now. Your mind set has changed, your motives have changed, your whole reason for being has changed. You are now in this game to make you happy for your own reasons. You know if you do this now, it is just for immediate gratification, not for long term solutions.
Keep going. I know, at least in the back of her mind, she is wondering what the hell is up. I'll bet the farm she has noticed. She may have even said something to you already, if not directly, then indirectly, wondering about you and this, this, new leaf thing you've go going on. Hm?
Keep going. If she doesn't initiate sex on her own, I bet she will at least bring up a 'relationship' type conversation sometime soon.
At which point you can be perfectly honest with her about what you are doing for yourself and why (You are concentrating on making yourself happy and balancing your needs... period. No need to elaborate. Leave her completely out of the conversation). Move on.
Speak honestly and from the heart. This isn't a game. But when this topic does comes up (and I bet it will be soon), talk about what you have been doing for you. You love her, yes, you need her, yes, but you no longer depend on her for your happiness. Kiss her on the cheek, squeeze her hand, smile at her, and head on out the door to go hit your golf balls.
Take care to, uh, relieve pressure so that if the situation does present itself, you aren't so built up with pressure that you, uhm, get ahead of yourself.
And for God's sake let me know if I've come close to predicting this one, would you?
