I just hated to see nobody posting on this forum so I thought I'd give a quick update. I've gone over two weeks now without any kind of an argument with my wife and I'm feeling pretty good about it. The last two weekends have been nice. No suddden romance, but I feel like she's becoming more comfortable around me - more open, talkative, etc. As long as I keep my head on straight and don't screw things up I think that things will eventually start improving. It's kind of become a game with me now - trying to make sure that I'm not the one to reset the "intimacy clock".
I've been trying to be understanding, helpful, and loving while also doing more things for myself. Nearly every night after getting the girls to sleep I've either been running or going to the driving range to hit golf balls. Both have been a nice distraction.
Yesterday the whole family went to the lake with a friend of my wife's who has a boat. We had a nice time, and seeing my wife in her bathing suit always gets me a little worked up - especially when the water got choppy causing her to bounce (that tends to put me into a bit of a trance). But although it nearly killed me, I managed to not make any advances last night - that's always tough for me after a day at the lake. My wife's friend (a female), while a nice person and generally fun, is so much like one of the guys that it gets old being around her. That got me to thinking about how happy I am to have my wife. I honestly consider her to be my best friend and I can't imagine spending my life with anyone else. Today I sent her some flowers at work, and on the card I wrote something like "You are my best friend in the world and I can't imagine living my life without you. Thank you for being so wonderful". I truly meant that and I hope that it made her feel good, especially in the midst of all the crap she has to put up with at work. And for once I'm really not expecting anything in return - I just wanted her to know how much I love her and how thankful I am to have her. If I can continue to do that, without expecting her to reciprocate, I think that the intimacy in our relationship will eventually come back. I hope so anyway.
That's about all I have to report. How are things with everyone else?
