Ok, I just got back from an all-day meeting and when I tried to post to the boards, my computer shut down on me and I lost everything. So, here goes again.

Thank you everyone who is offering me some input. I am in need right now of all the help I can get. I did talk to my attorney, and told her basically what you all said for me to do. She reiterated that my husband basically "…wants to stay in the house and is willing to pay me half the estate in order to do that." (My stomach turns at this thought. All I can think about it that he wants me out of his life and he is ripping me out of my home). My attorney and I also added that, of course since he wants out he will need to pay me “with conditions” etc.

She wants me to send her an email tomorrow morning, telling her, “…exactly what I want her to do.” I said that she is my attorney, and she needs to represent me and my best interests, whatever that may be. I asked her to “advise me” as suggested on these boards. I told her that I “…love my husband and I want to give him the home so he can reside there. I also said that I do not want this divorce but I do want him to be happy, and if that means giving him what he wants, that I will do that (with conditions as far as monetary value are concerned). When I said this, she immediately chimed in that I need to put that down in the email so she knows "exactly what" I want her to do. One suggestion is that we meet in front of a mediator. Another is that we meet with our attorneys.

I have to get grounded and know that my Husband is listening to this other woman who is 25 years younger than he is, and that he believes everything she says and nothing of what I say. I’m trying to hold my own.

Thank you for listening, and I welcome any comments or advice from everyone. TD and Puppy, if you happen to catch this post before morning, please let me know what you think.
poet

Last edited by poet; 08/26/08 09:54 PM.