I agree that I need to back away more, because although I see her realizing that she doesn't want him, I don't see her jumping back into my arms or anything. I have a feeling that she would get comfortable with things and take the next train if I let that happen.
I'm being cautious right now. I have a lot of stipulations that would have to happen for this to work.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
I feel like my hand is being forced and she's still trying to eat cake. She's been texting me all day, a lot of random stuff, but a lot of sexual advances too. I reiterated many times that I wouldn't do anything until she got her situation straightened out. She even offered to meet me at my office this evening and I declined. She mentioned something about waiting, and I said that I was going to keep her waiting and she was the only one that could change that. She said she couldn't and I told her I didn't know what to tell her. That kind of stuff kept on all day.
So then after a while of that, I said maybe we could have a real date next week or something. She said she would have to talk to Aaron this week...unless I didn't care. I told her I do care, but I don't want to pressure her because she needs to be comfortable with her choice. She thanked me for that, and then said she would probably be just using me for stress relief anyway. I told her I had issues with that too. She sais she knew and that was why this was all bad. I haven't responded to that yet, don't know if I will.
This is what I meant about her eating more cake. Yeah, so it didn't work out with her other guy, but she's not jumping back into my arms, but she wants me around to talk to, have fun with, ML to, etc. That's not going to happen, but I didn't want to have to keep reminding her of that. I figured telling her once would be enough and then I could just be dark about it for a while. Thats not the way it is working out though.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
FLOYD STOP TALKING TO HER (2X4)!!! She is still sooooo cake eating, and you deserve better. If I were you, I would just tell her that if she is serious, take care of business first. In the meantime, stop with the sex talk and complaining about Aaron because you don't want to hear it!
I think in your case, Sweetie, it is time for some tough love. Right now she has the best of both worlds, and it is disrespectful to both you and Aaron.
(((Floyd)))
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I couldn't agree with Lola more! Stop the texts, stop the talks. Even the mundane day to day texts. She needs to make a decision, end it if she's going to end it, then you two can talk. Get the book Love Must be Tough!
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
Yeah, I know. I just don't like the issue being forced. She knows where I stand at this point. I think she's heading in that direction, but being stubborn too.
I'm trying to be as dark and distant as possible without causing too many ripples. I guess I shouldn't worry about the ripples too much.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
No you shouldn't. It is time to think about your own feelings. She needs to see that you are serious, and that you have enough self respect and love for self that you will not allow yourself to be her OM and soundboard.
(((Floyd))) You are better than that.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
You're not forcing the issue. You're simply stating that you are going to do the right thing. You are not going to take her seconds. Don't worry about ripples. And quit replying to her texts!
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
What you need is ME...in the background with some sort of remote control device that ZAPS you when you get out of line.
Your fairy godmother couldn't save you from ME!
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
