You're not forcing the issue. You're simply stating that you are going to do the right thing. You are not going to take her seconds. Don't worry about ripples. And quit replying to her texts!
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."