I listened to her side and she really wants to know the exact time I'm going to be home. These are the evenings where she comes to the house to spend time with the kids and I get to go do something fun for myself like go to a moto club meeting or to a friends house. I am usually out until about 10 or so. sometimes it's later but I try to tell her when that'll be. Lately she has been texting me when I'm out with "ETA?" I try to make a good guess but I don't always have an exact plan or how long I'll be. Most times I'm home between 10 and midnight. That particular night I told her that I'd be late when I dropped the kids off to her. She appreciated that I made an effort to let her know. But she was upset because she made plans as if I was going to be home at 10 and I didn't finish by then. She had to Cancel/delay her plans.
(To be honest I think it was unwise of her to make plans to go on a 3 hour ride at midnight on a night where I say I'm going to be late and she is to have the kids. but I left that one alone with some difficulty. Let's not ask where she was going.)
I'm pretty sure I can handle this peacefully. I'll just have to be really clear beforehand that I'm going to be out "for the night" and that I aim to be home before midnight but reserve the right to extend that time if things go long. I'll still usually be home by 10 but it's way better to be early than late.
Me:34 W:31 d's 5 & 10 M: 5 years, T: 8, Bomb1 3/8/08,#2:3/28/08 Asked 4 D:4/19/08, discovered PA 5/8/08,W moved out 6/30/08 W pregnant by OM: 2/17/08
