I had a big response written out for you and then my computer twitched and I lost it all!
I would assume you have read: "men are from mars...". I found that book very interesting. Your husband might too.
Your H is a workaholic. Some of us idiots see "providing" as an ultimate sign of love. For us, it means (and I do hope this of your husband and he is not selfish and only looks to provide for his extras in life):
1-I want to give you the extras you deserve 2-I want to make the house a home 3-I WANT YOU TO BE PROUD OF ME 4-I want you to know you are the drive behind my success and the reason I push so hard.
At least that is what it means to me.
I did this when I bought a house I didn't want. Remodelled it and worked 20 hrs a day to do it. I ended up making the person I was pushing so hard for feel neglected. No matter how I tried to explain it to her that she was what was important in it all, she never seemed to get it. Only felt her wants and needs were unimportant. And she has moved on. She tells me now she understands but she is beyond it.
Quote:
"I am very tired this monring as H called two times between 3:45 & 5am this morning. He is very down on himself as he seems to be coming out of couseling the past few times. He said 'his life sucks' and 'he needs to get a life' and that 'i took his life away by leaving'. "
